Who’s in charge of your ship? Are you?

One would think that the answer is easy - I am, of course. But are you?

If you aren’t controlling your thoughts then you aren’t in charge. If the negative self-talk is present, if doubt and fear come in and take you off course to what you truly want - then you aren’t in charge.

I spent years of my life not being in charge. It caused me much stress, pain and suffering. 

From the outside, I looked extremely successful and ‘put together’. On the inside it was a different story. The anxiety and doubt kept my nervous system on high all the time. I was tired, depressed and so unhappy with my life and my relationships. I wasn’t able to feel love. From the outside you would think I had the “perfect” life as I had a very successful career, financial stability, great kids, a good partner and yet depression ruled me.

Back then, I didn’t even know it was an option to control my thoughts. They ran and I just let them. I came from an upbringing where ‘being smart’ meant being loved - or so I thought. My mind never stopped. And it was exhausting. All the waking hours, my mind would be rehashing conversations and what I could have or should have done differently. I lived in a ‘should’ world where judgement was definitely on the bridge of the ship. If I wasn’t incessantly analysing the past, I was problem solving with an a-z solutions list for every possible outcome of future events, which btw would never happen. The anxiety was overwhelming at times. The fear of failure, rejection, non acceptance, not having the right answer, not being good enough, all kept me trapped in mental chaos. My decisions were all from a place of fear.  

I was not in control of Me. Fear owned me. It kept me from my truth, my passion, my purpose, and who I am. It kept me from BEing. I was a doer not a Being. Busy work seemed important. 

Being in control is being in your power and your truth. It means you are BEing your authentic self and in charge of your decisions. It means you are consciously aware and making decisions that align with you. It means you own your decisions - they aren’t someone else’s fault. 

Sometimes it might seem easier to let someone else be in charge of you. But the truth is, it’s not. When you are in charge of your own ship, life turns around.  It’s liberating. Life becomes fulfilling. It makes relationships healthy and deeper. You get connected to yourself and what is meaningful and important to you. Love becomes very different. It makes life rich. It’s freedom.

So who’s in charge?  If it’s not you…let’s talk!

Be the Change.